I just returned from a trip to Chicago late last night. There is so much rich stuff to write down in a blog that I hope I can remember it all.
The visit was to see my folks and attend a little party thrown in honor of my brother who was serving in the U.S. Army in Afghanistan the past 6 or 7 months. He's back and probably won't deploy again. He retires in 3.5 years. The party was yesterday afternoon and there were probably 30 people or more in attendance. I found myself playing a lot of frisbee with the kids & having that as a distraction instead of visiting with cousins, relatives, the American Legion Women's Auxiliary, or my parent's neighbors. I did take breaks from frisbee to socialize, or maybe I took breaks from socializing to play frisbee. Doesn't matter. I needed to run around and be physical and other people need to hang out, drink a beer, and have that kind of social time. My mom had about 10 varieties of cakes and cookies and pastries. Then guests brought some of their own. Then some pizza arrived. Then we sang "For He's a Jolly Good Fellow!" Then my brother cut the cake, the sheet cake frosted in his honor. Then we all had cake and more sweets. It was a bit surreal. My parents opened up a bag of M&M packages, dumped them in a bowl, and encouraged 3 girls to take as much as they wanted. Then they opened up a second bag and did the same thing. Meanwhile the father of the girls was shaking his head, saying, "no, no, no" to himself, outloud. I know it's out of love, but it is possible to give kids too much candy and sweets. This act will change their diet for 3 weeks and change the parent's communication with the children for 3 weeks, and especially the next few days. This act will force work on the parents who have their own disposition about sweets. Out of love, but just wrong.
Almost as wrong as my dad spraying the shrubs and perimeter of the backyard with this product called a bug fogger, which is supposed to kill off and discourage bugs to come into the yard. I called this act of spraying "disgusting". He said he was "thinking of other people". Well so am I, when I say I want to be able to run around, touch vegetation, eat food, and not transfer poison from my hands to my mouth and body.
Then there was the soduko puzzle I finished. My first.
Then there was the multiple trips to Chili's with my brother to enjoy some cool beverages. And the bartender he befriended a few years back.
Then there was running two mornings in a row in "my old stomping grounds". One highlight was getting onto the running track of Glenbrook South High School, where I used to train and be proud of 60's during interval workouts.
Then there was the lunch Sunday afternoon where I said I was going to Taco Bell, and they all got animated and said "with all this food around here, how can you go out?" And I asked what kind of food there were talking about? The cake, the cookies, the chips, the pretzels. So my mom opened the fridge and said "do you want a hard boiled egg?" I mean, there is nothing wrong with offering a hard boiled egg. It's is nourishing. But there wasn't anything in the house except 4 slices of Panera's old bread, romaine lettuce, and some ham. I ended up respecting their persuasion, stayed home, and prepared myself a peanut butter sandwich.
Then there was the desire to bring a plastic palm looking tree from downstairs in the basement to the outside porch. I vetoed that motion as quick as I could.
Then there was the usual stress around preparing a party. Streamers, locations of pictures, music or no music, where to put the pizza, where to put the coffee pot, and so on.
At the same time, I got good parents. I got a hug from my dad, which was appropriate. But get this: my brother and I were hanging out with our nephews at our sister's house for a while, then when she came home, she greeted everyone, I sat back down on the couch, and she says something about sitting down and sits down on my lap and puts her arm around my neck. I dunno. This lap is for me and my wife and kids. But a sister? I pushed her off and slid 5 inches towards the arm of the couch. With little effort, we were separated.
I enjoyed playing card tricks with my nephews. I bought them a little book & decks of cards from Barnes and Noble and when we got to their house we spend a good amount of time trying to master some of the tricks. Good fun.